Work-drunk mom-of-two realizes she needs to spend more time with her daughters
A workaholic mother of two found she wasn’t spending enough time with her daughters after swapping homes and budget with a Skint family in Buckinghamshire.
Kelly Filistad, CEO of a successful Buckinghamshire-based digital marketing company, appears on Rich House, Poor House on Channel 5 this evening as she describes her struggles to balance work and family life.
Kelly, who lives in a five-bedroom mansion and spends £ 1,600 every week, relies on the daily help of a nanny to care for their two daughters, Sienna, eight, and Bella, four.
On the show, she chats live with Natalie and Nikki Ryan, a skint couple who live on £ 100 a week and have three children, with a fourth on the way.
After living in Natalie’s place, Kelly realizes that she wants to spend more time with her children after they wonder why she is always on the phone and never picks them up from school.
She says: “It made me realize that the time I spent with the girls has to be quality time to focus on them and not be distracted by work. I could do more school. once every three weeks.
Kelly Filistad, pictured, is a CEO and mother of two who resides in a five bedroom, five bathroom mansion in Buckinghamshire with her husband Rob and their daughters Sienna, eight and Bella, four, also pictured .
Kelly reveals that she decided to start her business after her daughter Sienna suffered complications after her birth in 2012.
Once Sienna recovered, Kelly says she believed nothing worse than this could ever happen, and she bravely set out to launch her KVA agency, which was now a thriving business.
The company started as a three person project but now has 50 employees and several awards. Meanwhile, her husband Rob works as the Creative Director of his company.
Thanks to the business, Kelly and her husband Robert live in a beautiful house, and they spoil their children with gifts.
Kelly trades life and budget with Natalie and Nikki Ryan, who live with their three children in a rented two-room apartment in High Wickham. Natalie, pictured, is pregnant with their fourth child
Their nanny takes care of the house and homework, allowing the couple to devote all of their energy to their business
They also admit to having a taste for shiny things, with a Tesla sitting proudly in their driveway, next to a brand new Audi.
Yet despite the appearance of a perfect life, the couple admit that they don’t feel like they are spending enough quality time with their children.
Kelly says, “I think as a mom the only thing I would really like to change is when I’m with the kids, I’m actually there with them and in the moment.”
During this time, child care was what held Natalie back in her quest for financial stability.
The pregnant mother-of-three lives in a two-bedroom rented apartment with her husband Nikki, her son from a previous relationship Luca, 13, Kyan Brody, seven, and their daughter Veronica Rose, who was 19 months old.
Natalie and Nikki’s businesses struggle to get off the ground and the couple have racked up £ 30,000 in debt
Natalie was only 15 when she got pregnant with Luca, and the teenager suffers from ADHD and autism.
Meanwhile, Nikki works long hours as a carpenter, explaining, “I have to stay at work as long as possible to complete a job and get the money for it.”
Meanwhile, Natalie has a wedding planning business, but little time to focus on it.
The couple live on just £ 100 a week for five people and have accumulated £ 30,000 in debt.
Nikki admits: “The spiral started as soon as we lived in our first apartment.
“We just started buying things we didn’t have money for and needed,” Natalie says.
The Skint couple are completely blown away by Kelly and Rob’s home when the two families have swapped their mansions.
Kelly learns on the show that she needs to spend more quality time with her daughters, who call her because she works too much
The Filistad House has a playroom for children, as well as a home office and a cinema room.
Natalie says, “I knew it was a wealthy family home, but I never thought it would be so extravagant.”
Kelly and Robert’s impression of Natalie and Nikki’s house is very different, with Kelly admitting that she was “a little scared”, and Rob saying, “I don’t really know how the family is doing because they have three. children but only two bedrooms. ‘
The wealthy family soon realizes that the family they traded with has a huge debt.
Kelly says, “Most of the time you just bury your head in the sand and ignore things and when they don’t go away they get worse, so at least they’re taking steps in the right direction.”
Throughout the week, they also struggle with material things, like an old bed that tires Kelly and a broken boiler, which means there is no hot water in the apartment.
Sienna opens up to her parents, telling them that they rarely do something together that Rob and Kelly aren’t on the phone.
The eight-year-old tells her mother that she dreams of waiting outside school, saying, “Maybe some days will surprise me and come and get me.”
During this time, she also said on camera: “It was nice to spend more time with my mom and dad because they are working normally all the time.”
Rob is bowled over by the revelation, saying, “It’s always surprising when they’re up front enough like that, you only live once and the business is really important, but so is family time.”
During the exchange, he says he enjoys spending more time with his daughters and reading to them at night.
He adds: “It was really nice to have this time with the children, to share this time with the family which is so important.”
The exchange also brings home some tough truths for Natalie, who mourns after her family enjoys a movie night at Filistad’s big house.
She says, “I had a few tears earlier because I realize this is such a wonderful house and it doesn’t have to be life, it’s a wonderful lifestyle that Kelly and Rob have created.” for their children.
“It’s a mixture of emotions, a mixture of” I want to work harder, I want this for my kids “and the other part of me wondering” can I do it, that’s something that I can aspire to or is it something I have never been able to achieve in my life? “‘
And after visiting Kelly’s offices, Natalie says she thinks the mother-of-two is spending too much time at work.
“I’m a little worried about Kelly because she’s doing so much for a person, burnouts are something a lot of business people get when they overdo it,” she says.
Meanwhile, Kelly’s friend Emily tells Natalie on a visit that she feels guilty for working too hard and not being able to see her children.
During the experience, Natalie says she feels guilty for not being able to provide a better life for her children
After spending a week in Nikki and Natalie’s place, Kelly and Rob decide to help the couple in whatever way they can.
“I really hope we can really inspire him,” says Kelly.
“They have all kinds of positive energies and that just funnels them into something, Natalie’s business for example,” admits Rob.
“I guess you have to expose yourself, and this is almost the first step towards change,” Kelly agrees.
Rob continues, “Sometimes you have to take a risk to get a reward at the end which bodes well for them if they really want to achieve something.”
When the two couples finally meet, Kelly admits that she understands why Natalie and Nikki are struggling financially.
“I can certainly see how very difficult in the long run that would be, especially with three kids and one on the way,” she told the couple.
Rob says, “I think it’s very exciting now that you have your wedding business. You know that by having the business, there is unlimited earning potential.
Kelly tells him, “We looked at your branding and your website and the fact that you did and you are where you are and you have kids too, you are amazing.
“Obviously there are almost two years of bride and groom who have not been able to get married, there is a very good opportunity.
‘I would like to give you something. I will be working closely with you and I will do everything in my power to help you make your business a success.
She offers to advertise Natalie’s business to help her grow and orders them a memory foam mattress so they can sleep better.
“I don’t think there are words for it,” Natalie said.
Kelly says, “I guess this experience gave me even more motivation and determination, if possible.
“It also made me realize that the time I spend with the girls needs to be quality time to focus on them and not be distracted by work.
“I could go to school more than once every three weeks,” she jokes.
Rich House, Poor House airs Sundays at 9 p.m. on Channel 5.